My wife and I noticed that our kids would want things that belonged to other people especially when visiting their home. Most of our kids (and kids in general for that matter) will visit someone’s home and want a toy or a stuffed animal. Not #2. #2 loves jewelry. When she was too little to walk, women would pick her up and she would stare at their earrings and necklaces. She would touch them, rub them, and fall into a trance.
One day when we were visiting from Boston or Philadelphia (can’t remember) my mother-in-law goes to visit one of her friends and takes #2 along. My wife explained very carefully to #2 (who is about 3 or 4 years old then) that she is not to ask for anything, touch anything, and if she comes back with stuff that she would get in trouble. My wife also explained to her mom the rules of engagement. We take the other kids out. When we get back the mother-in-law and #2 are already home.
We walk in and there standing in the middle of the hallway is #2 wearing earrings, necklace, and bracelet. Furthermore she is eating chocolate holding a whole bag candy and more chocolates. My wife immediately looks at her mom and says, “MOM!!!??? What did I tell you?”
My mother-in-law shakes her head and says, “Oh my. Oh my. This little girl. You have no idea.”
Wife says, “What happened?”
Mom says, “We get there and everything is fine. My friend comes out wearing all her jewelry and #2 starts staring. I told her to remember what you said. #2 starts calling my friend, grandma (in Korean) to butter her up. My friend loves it and offers her candy and chocolate. #2 tells hers that her mommy and daddy said not to eat those things because they will ruin her teeth. My friend is dying now. She is head over heels with this kid. Then #2 leans over to my friend and says I love you, grandma. CAN YOU BELIEVE THIS KID??? So my friend totally falls for this and gives her candy, chocolate, her earrings, necklace, and bracelet saying how she doesn’t care about the rules. Hey I tried. You cannot blame me for this. #2, oh #2 is something special.”
My wife and I look at each other and cannot believe our ears and eyes. We look at #2 and say, “What did we tell you? Huh? What did we say about bringing stuff home that doesn’t belong to you?”
#2 says, “But I made sure that grandma gave me enough candy and chocolate for the other kids.”
Now the other kids are running to #2 and although she is disobedient, has won over the crowd again. We had no idea what to do or say. I love this kid but worry about her so much as you can imagine.